Since 2020, All our lives have been turned upside down. The COVID-pandemic is taking its toll on every country and it feels like we should get customed to a new normal.
Trying to see a positive is difficult as you see how families and friends are seeing falling members. This pandemic also has devastating effects on economies. Forcing myself to look for positives, I struggle to found more than what I can count on a single hand.
But this pandemic has made me aware of a lot of things…
I have learned that hatred from a family member hurts more than you can ever realize, even if you pretend it doesn’t bother you. It creates a hole that no-one can fill. It creates a longing that you know will forever stay. An unbearable pain that no-one can cure. The bitter to swallow is knowing that the attempts to ‘salvage’ the relationship is in vain.
I have learned that changing the way you live for the sake of others is not living at all. Adapting your life to accommodate someone you love, at the cost of your own well-being, can’t even be described as surviving, but truly the real meaning of a living dead. In essence, stop living for the sake to make someone else happy, and sacrificing your own happiness is not a solution at all. It merely treats a symptom, but not the problem.
I became aware that many use their religion as a cane to beat others, instead of using that cane to help you walk and support your weight. I have found that some claim to be Christians (or any faith believer for that matter) when it suits them, yet their actions point in another direction.
You cannot preach with a Bible under your arm, yet you don’t follow the Ten Commandments. I understand and fully agree that no-one is perfect, but it frustrates me when people manipulate people to see them for who they want them to see and not for who they really are.
Friendships come and go; some will survive this turmoil times we live in, but others won’t. It is the sad reality we face daily. I have seen great people in my life, but for reasons (good and bad), the friendships faded. Furthermore, some friendships that perished, formed part of the greatest parts of my life.
I think what I am trying to say is that life is about choices. You are not born with hatred; you learn to hate. You choose to manipulate and lie. You choose to see the good or the bad. You choose who you want in your life and who you don’t want in your life.
Sometimes choices with good intentions, are not the best choice for you. We all make choices daily and some is good and the rest not so good.
If you have to make a choice that eliminate any change of happiness in your life, just for the sake to keep the peace in a relationship or to make another happy even though you will then have no chance in happiness in your own life, is it truly the right choice?
Friendships and relationships are like breathing. You inhale and exhale; give and take. You can’t be alive with only the inhale or exhale part. Try to inhale and walk around the block without exhaling? Same applies to exhaling. You can give everything in a relationship, but if the other party does not invest into that, it is not living; it is not a relationship. Is that worth it?\ Choices will sometimes hurt and it will sometimes bring you to s will sometimes hurt and it will sometimes bring you to our knees. But the choices you make needs to better YOUR life and the people you choose to share your life with. Life is worth living if you are in it. Don’t be manipulated to sacrifice your life for someone not willing to do the same for you.